So, I haven't been following my own advice lately... Between wrapping up our first year of homeschooling, coaching, trainings, baseball games and practices, and missing my mom, I need some extra rest and I haven't been taking it. The other night when I accepted this and reflected on letting myself get fried, I realized I hadn't written out my evening gratitude list for a few weeks. I love this as a nightly routine because it gets me off the screen, it's a gentle way to reflect on my day, and I always manage to find the joy no matter what... Good news is it was simple for me to begin again. I picked up my journal and made my list. I don't write a novel, it's usually bullet points. The next morning I came across the following quote in a devotional a good friend gave me...
BOOM. I know I may not win some of you over with this next thought but... Getting burnt out is a choice. There I said it. Okay, so it happened. Now what? Here's what helps me rekindle my flame...
1. Surrender. Accept that doing all.the.things is not realistic nor healthy. It’s also okay to not be good at everything! If you’re on social media on any given day you’re bombarded with what you should be doing and it’s easy to fall into the comparison game. Time to let Jesus take the wheel. Here’s a powerful prayer called the Surrender Novena. Whether you pray or not, I encourage you to read the words, these are universal worries and there is one answer.
2. Go take a nap. You can’t even think straight when you’re tired so stop pretending staying up a little longer to finish that one thing will make your a productive superstar. Not getting the right amount of asleep means you’re elevating the stress hormone, cortisol. This can contribute to weight gain, “foggy brain”, compromising your immune system, and messing with your mood. Hmm, sound about right? Now that I’m a mom, I get why when I went to look for my mom, I started in her bedroom.
3. Sit in the sun. Go outside! Get some fresh air. Your body produces Vitamin D and serotonin when you’re in the sun. Vitamin D helps strengthen bones, and aids in preventing cancer and certain skin conditions. Serotonin helps boost your mood and helps you feel calm and focused. Wow, our bodies are amazing! Celebrate this by stepping outside and appreciating the beauty around you as well as your own.
4. Make an appointment with yourself. I’m a big fan of scheduling self-care, actually writing it down in my planner. I am quick to brush off reading, a foot soak, or even scheduling a dentist appointment because there is always something more productive to do. So, I block time on my calendar to take care of myself. How productive are you really if you’re giving the world what’s left of you? If you can brush yourself off so easily, think of how your family, friends, and co-workers feel when they can tell they’re getting what’s left of you…? Make an appointment with yourself and keep it. Your mind, body, and soul are absolutely worth the investment.
5. Say “no”. Give yourself permission to s l o w down.
The next time your flame is a flicker, stop and ask yourself, “are my choices bringing me closer to or further from the life I want to build?” What works for you when you’re burnt out? Share it in the comments and help someone else...
I’m not at the point in my entrepreneurial journey where I can take a week off for bereavement. It’s me, myself, and I behind the keyboard so taking time off to grieve over the loss of my Mom isn’t really an option. I still need to show up for it all, including homeschooling our children and running my business.
If you’re grieving and trying to do all.the.things, here are five ways I’m managing emotions and exhaustion during this time, maybe they’ll help you (or a friend) too.
1. Everyday is different. Accept that. You can stick to your routine and to do list but each day you’ll feel different in your grief. Give yourself permission to accept that and don’t beat yourself up about it.
2. Everyone handles grief differently. If you know someone still rocking their business during a loss, skip the comparison game. It’s not healthy when you’re not mourning so let’s not even go down that road while you’re actually grieving. Stay in your lane and put the blinders on.
3. Extra self-care is necessary. Schedule it. If you find you need a nap in the afternoon, take it. If you find you need to dial back your usual networking, there’s no shame. You’re better off taking the time now than running yourself completely ragged and having an even worse meltdown later.
4. You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone but you do need to communicate. No is a complete sentence but if you feel the need to elaborate, simply be honest. You don’t have to give all the details but enough so the other person understands you need time and or space.
5. Your to-do list needs to be shorter. Pick ONE thing to get done each day and focus on that. Multi-tasking is for computers.
If you could use some help staying in your lane and keeping those blinders on, let’s chat. Email me.
I have decided to give you a little sneak peek into my weekly mentoring call with Tom Ziglar. Each week we go over one spoke on the wheel of life, here is a great tip for your “personal” spoke. This is a simple and practical list of choices and habits that will give you a much needed energy boost. If you are feeling drained between work, teaching your children, and all the things that are part of your usual everyday routine you can choose to rest, reset or quit.
Instead of quitting and starting all over again, try to rest and reset with some of these...
20 choices and habits that will give you energy
1. Choose to care for yourself
How can you help others if you don’t take care of yourself? There are many forms of self care from physical to spiritual to financial...
2. Develop a "habitude" of gratitude
Fear and gratitude can’t live in the same place. So make sure you’re finding at least three things to be grateful each day. This simple exercise is even more powerful when you write those three things down.
3. Intentionally learn something you can share that will help someone else
Serve someone! You’ll help another person and improve your outlook on life...
4. Find a hobby
Don’t forget to have fun! Comes in handy with #13 too.
5. Plan think time
Get up and own the day before it owns you or set aside some time during your lunch break
6. Plan to worry
If something is pressing on you and you’re finding it hard to focus, schedule a time to worry! When the thought comes, make a note that you’ll take the time to worry about that at 10am. You’ll probably find that when that when 10 rolls around you won’t need to sit and “worry”.
7. Plan in advance how you will respond to life’s upsets
Life happens and even the best laid plans will get interrupted with family emergencies or job changes. But you are in control of how you react - will you fly off the handle or take the change step by step and ask for help or delegate?
8. Start your day right
It usually starts the night before with #11. Here’s a simple morning routine for you - it’s my focused 30.
9. Write “I like because…” notes and make a victory list.
“I like” notes are a lot of fun to share with your family and co-workers. And don’t forget to celebrate your wins, big or small, at the end of each week.
10. Text some love and appreciation
When you think of someone, go ahead and tell them! Chances are they need to hear it.
The amount of sleep you get determines your performance, mood, and even your weight. Get a solid 7-8 hours! (Moms, resist the urge to stay up and go “mom”-bie at night, you’re better off working on #8.)
12. Make sure you are not whining to yourself
13. Paint a fence
Stuck on something? Do a chore or a project unrelated to what you’re stuck on and disconnect for a while.
14. Walk in the woods
Or the beach - go outside! Get some fresh air and enjoy God’s creation. Plus, sunshine helps your body produce its own Vitamin D which boosts your immune system.
15. Take short exercise breaks
Take a break from sitting and stay flexible.
16. Intentionally daydream
I had a coach tell me to just sit and look at my vision board daily - you know what? It’s fun and improved my mindset!
17. Learn a word a day
And if you have children, have them quiz you on the spelling and definition. They'll learn something too.
18. Create your playlist
I’ve got my library on YouTube. When I need a pick me up, I just pop in the earbuds or turn it on while I’m driving.
19. Get out of town
Sometimes you just need a change of scenery to get some perspective
20. Putting it all together - the power of multiplication
Combine some of these - for example, exercise outside while you listen to your playlist
When one area of your life improves, all areas of your life improve. Which one of these choices will you implement this week?
I coach you to go from daily chaos to SIMPLICITY so you can LOVE life! I’m proud to be a licensed Ziglar Life Coach and a boymom. Tea, big earrings, living a non toxic lifestyle, and creative evangelization are some of my loves...