I remember the first time I heard the phrase "know your worth". It was decades ago while I was watching the movie Joy Luck Club with my Mom. In the film a mother is referring to her daughter's choices and what she has allowed in her life - especially her marriage. Fast forward to a family and business of my own and I get this... What does it mean to know your self-worth? I see three keys to determining your self-worth: legacy, freedom, and boundaries. Legacy is the impact you have after you're gone. It's not inheritance, it's spiritual. What will you be known for after you're gone? Why do you do what you do? What is your mission? Are you constantly the cranky mommy or do you intentionally build time for a break?
You'll find freedom in living your legacy now. When you live life on purpose, you gain clarity on what doesn't serve you or your legacy. You also gain clarity on how you can serve others. It means you can start saying "no" and be okay with it. It means you can start building boundaries around what you will allow and not allow in your life. When you start creating boundaries around how you will show up in your personal life and business life, and who you're willing to accommodate, all of the sudden you find more time. Time is your most precious resource because once it's gone, that's it. Don't waste it. Knowing your self-worth means getting clear on your legacy. Knowing your legacy helps you create freedom and build boundaries so you can live a life of purpose on purpose. Need help determining your self-worth? Download the Ziglar legacy action guide.
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I’m not at the point in my entrepreneurial journey where I can take time off for bereavement. It’s me, myself, and I behind the keyboard so taking time off to grieve over the loss of my father, and later my mother, wasn’t really an option. I still needed to show up for it all, including homeschooling our children and running my business. If you’re grieving and trying to do all.the.things, here are five ways I managed emotions and exhaustion while mourning. Maybe they’ll help you (or a friend) too. 1. Everyday is different. Accept that and don't beat yourself up about it. Each day you’ll feel different in your grief. Pick one thing to complete on your to-do list each day and focus on that. Multi-tasking is for computers. 2. Everyone handles grief differently. Skip the comparison game. It’s not healthy when you’re not mourning so let’s not even go down that road while you’re grieving. Stay in your lane and put the blinders on. 3. Extra self-care is necessary. Schedule it. If you find you need a nap in the afternoon, take it. If you find you need to dial back your usual networking, there’s no shame. You’re better off taking the time now than burning yourself out later. 4. Enforce boundaries. No is a complete sentence but if you feel the need to elaborate, simply be honest. You don’t have to give all the details but enough so the other person understands you need time and or space. 5. Pray. Pray for and to your loved one. My faith teaches that we need to pray for the souls of the dead. While there is a debate amongst theologians if these holy souls can also intercede for us, this doesn't stop you from paying. What a gift of giving and receiving, take comfort. Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, I have decided to give you a little sneak peek into my weekly mentoring call with Tom Ziglar. Each week we go over one spoke on the wheel of life, here is a great tip for your “personal” spoke. This is a simple and practical list of choices and habits that will give you a much needed energy boost. If you are feeling drained between work, teaching your children, and all the things that are part of your usual everyday routine you can choose to rest, reset or quit.
Instead of quitting and starting all over again, try to rest and reset with some of these... 20 choices and habits that will give you energy 1. Choose to care for yourself How can you help others if you don’t take care of yourself? There are many forms of self care from physical to spiritual to financial... 2. Develop a "habitude" of gratitude Fear and gratitude can’t live in the same place. So make sure you’re finding at least three things to be grateful each day. This simple exercise is even more powerful when you write those three things down. 3. Intentionally learn something you can share that will help someone else Serve someone! You’ll help another person and improve your outlook on life... 4. Find a hobby Don’t forget to have fun! Comes in handy with #13 too. 5. Plan think time Get up and own the day before it owns you or set aside some time during your lunch break 6. Plan to worry If something is pressing on you and you’re finding it hard to focus, schedule a time to worry! When the thought comes, make a note that you’ll take the time to worry about that at 10am. You’ll probably find that when that when 10 rolls around you won’t need to sit and “worry”. 7. Plan in advance how you will respond to life’s upsets Life happens and even the best laid plans will get interrupted with family emergencies or job changes. But you are in control of how you react - will you fly off the handle or take the change step by step and ask for help or delegate? 8. Start your day right It usually starts the night before with #11. Here’s a simple morning routine for you - it’s my focused 30. 9. Write “I like because…” notes and make a victory list. “I like” notes are a lot of fun to share with your family and co-workers. And don’t forget to celebrate your wins, big or small, at the end of each week. 10. Text some love and appreciation When you think of someone, go ahead and tell them! Chances are they need to hear it. 11. Sleep The amount of sleep you get determines your performance, mood, and even your weight. Get a solid 7-8 hours! (Moms, resist the urge to stay up and go “mom”-bie at night, you’re better off working on #8.) 12. Make sure you are not whining to yourself ‘Nuff said. 13. Paint a fence Stuck on something? Do a chore or a project unrelated to what you’re stuck on and disconnect for a while. 14. Walk in the woods Or the beach - go outside! Get some fresh air and enjoy God’s creation. Plus, sunshine helps your body produce its own Vitamin D which boosts your immune system. 15. Take short exercise breaks Take a break from sitting and stay flexible. 16. Intentionally daydream I had a coach tell me to just sit and look at my vision board daily - you know what? It’s fun and improved my mindset! 17. Learn a word a day And if you have children, have them quiz you on the spelling and definition. They'll learn something too. 18. Create your playlist I’ve got my library on YouTube. When I need a pick me up, I just pop in the earbuds or turn it on while I’m driving. 19. Get out of town Sometimes you just need a change of scenery to get some perspective 20. Putting it all together - the power of multiplication Combine some of these - for example, exercise outside while you listen to your playlist When one area of your life improves, all areas of your life improve. Which one of these choices will you implement this week? |
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